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Continuing on that, what if it was impossible for you to tell?
I believe it's on the post-op person to inform their partner. If the game is to see how I would react I couldn't tell you, because it hasn't happened. I would be miffed in all likelihood. Why? Dunno, it's just how I feel, and I cannot change that and I find it doubly and hypocritically wrong for someone to suggest I should.
So are you of the opinion that when you have two things that are functionally and aesthetically the same, viewing them as different due to invisible factors that you would be unaware of if you were not told is rational? I don't think you can really argue that it is rational, and while I don't necessarily blame you or think less of you for feeling that way, I think it's unrealistic of you to consider it not a bigoted opinion.
To further illustrate my point, I will provide an example.
A man, upon meeting a woman, finds her physically attractive and chooses to strike up a conversation with her, hoping to pursue a romantic relationship. During the conversation, the man learns that one of the woman's parents happens to be black. Upon learning this, the man no longer finds the woman attractive and is no longer interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her because the fact that one of her parents is black makes him uncomfortable. Do you consider this man a bigot?
I don't necessarily agree that "irrational" and "bigoted" are the same thing. every human psyche is filled with thousands of irrationalities, which are pretty unavoidably ingrained in all our dumb stone-age brains. I agree that there is no difference between bloodsire's feelings and the analogy you use her (although our society would, unfortunately, judge them very differently), but to call either bigoted if the person is aware of their own irrationality is to me a lack of empathy for other human beings.
maybe the guy can't look at his girlfriend without picturing her as black, which is totally unattractive to him. maybe bloodsire can't look at a photo of waffleb without picturing what she looked like as a dude. is this bigotry? I would not say so.