SO I have gotten to the point where I don't want to do anything but play video games, sleep, and eat basically. I'm 16 and go to a high school where I was recruited to play baseball and for academics and now I just don't feel like do anything really. Its about 2 right now and haven't started any homework, school starts in 6 and half hours or so and I have roughly 3-5 hours of homework to do. These last few weeks I have been getting 2-4 hours of sleep and barely getting work done and have just dreaded going to baseball practice/fall games. I've always been that good suck up kid which I never want to be again but I would like to at least have the self control to do homework for the most part and get a decent amount of sleep. Idk what to do I just can't bring myself to do anything right now so if anyone has had a time like this or has any solutions please share.
I used to be like this, I started taking a drug called prozac that is an anti-depressant. It really helped. I'm not saying you're depressed, but it might be worth it to talk to your doctor, because it sounds like you have a total dis-interest in everything.
Not sure if you are asking for some sort of psychological trick/mantra you can use to become more disciplined, because there is none. What you need to do is shut down the computer, do your homework and hopefully that will leave you exhuasted/bored enough to go to sleep. However nothing is that simple for someone having that much difficulty. I'm no psychologist but it also sounds like you may be a bit depressed, in which case you should probably talk to someone in meat space to help you receive support or medication.
loljkNot sure if you are asking for some sort of psychological trick/mantra you can use to become more disciplined, because there is none. What you need to do is shut down the computer, do your homework and hopefully that will leave you exhuasted/bored enough to go to sleep. I'm no psychologist but it also sounds like you may be a bit depressed, in which case you should probably talk to someone in meat space to help you receive support or medication.
Ya wish I could shut down my computer but 80% of my homework is on it including math and the only thing that isn't is chemistry and some spanish 3 and the doctor said that he will probably prescribe me some add medication or something along the lines of that.
Ya wish I could shut down my computer but 80% of my homework is on it including math and the only thing that isn't is chemistry and some spanish 3 and the doctor said that he will probably prescribe me some add medication or something along the lines of that.
Cut down one tree at a time and pretty soon the whole forest will be gone. Make sure you keep up with physical activity, going to it might be annoying but I bet it's not so bad once you get there and start playing. That's all the support I can give you... You can man the fuck up and get shit done or be a whiny teenager.
I was in a kinda similar situation from what you are describing. Do you think you could have anxiety? You talk about dreading basketball practice. I was the same way about things. There would be an activity that I absolutely love, yet I would dread going to it for completely illogical reasons. The level of apathy you seem to be describing could be a sign of depression too. Talking to a councilor or a doctor or even your parents about it is a great first step. It's really really hard to do, but it will make you feel much better in the end. I'm not a doctor or anything and it's hard to tell exactly what the problem is just from a post on the internet though.
PowerofTowerDo you think you could have anxiety? ]
Severe anxiety lol, my whole family has it but I have only really thought about having anxiety a few times and it never bothered me but that could be it.
Severe anxiety lol, my whole family has it but I have only really thought about having anxiety a few times and it never bothered me but that could be it.
Turn off the PC, not playing comp tf2 and barely gaming at all is one of the best decisions I've ever made and it made me sleep better, eat better, socialize more and work out more.
I was a total fuck up in high school. Don't worry, despite what everybody tells you, high school really doesn't matter unless you intend to go to Harvard and are also rich.
If you dread playing baseball, quit, after injuries took me out of sports I did find that although I missed/miss playing a lot, not having anything to do after school was sweet.
You make the rules it's your life. Just accept the consequences for your actions and go to fucking bed. Also change schools sounds like a good idea.
I was offered a position, after an IQ test, in a specialized academy for Indiana students and I told them they could get right fucked, I was staying in public school where shit was easy and grades were easier ;) Because at the end of the day college is a net loss unless you're a doctor or engineer, lucky, or graduate student bound. And I wanted to be the third - and my political opinions make it really difficult for me to get into mainstream programs lol.
If you dread playing baseball, quit, after injuries took me out of sports I did find that although I missed/miss playing a lot, not having anything to do after school was sweet.
You make the rules it's your life. Just accept the consequences for your actions and go to fucking bed. Also change schools sounds like a good idea.
I was offered a position, after an IQ test, in a specialized academy for Indiana students and I told them they could get right fucked, I was staying in public school where shit was easy and grades were easier ;) Because at the end of the day college is a net loss unless you're a doctor or engineer, lucky, or graduate student bound. And I wanted to be the third - and my political opinions make it really difficult for me to get into mainstream programs lol.
i was the past 4 years like this and got into a shit ton of trouble if you really think you are addicted get help if you are just lazy someone needs to kick your ass so you can get your shit done (best thing to do is kick your own ass)
add me. i like to talk about philosophy and shit. i went through what you are going through.
SeaGravei was the past 4 years like this and got into a shit ton of trouble if you really think you are addicted get help if you are just lazy someone needs to kick your ass so you can get your shit done (best thing to do is kick your own ass)
If kicking your own ass would be easy...
Every day I'm like: Today I'll go to bed early!
Which ends up in roughly 3-4 hours of sleep
If kicking your own ass would be easy...
Every day I'm like: Today I'll go to bed early!
Which ends up in roughly 3-4 hours of sleep
Thomas, pm me when you're online. Let's talk my lil brother... I got an amazing story to share you in hope of getting you back in track. These stories can't be publicly told. I apologize
I used to cut class and stuff to play games, midway through last year I almost ended it with my girlfriend who I've now been with for two years because she was always wanting me to come over during my gaming time, it didn't effect me because I crammed hard to make up for it but the way I stopped was that I found something to motivate me for long term goals. I started playing football at a high level again as well which I had stopped doing. It gave me something that I could strive to be good at but also wouldn't take up all my spare time, and after that gaming became a whole lot more casual.
So yeah tldr: find something that interests you irl and take interest in, make an effort to get into it and make gaming a casual past time role because of it
So yeah tldr: find something that interests you irl and take interest in, make an effort to get into it and make gaming a casual past time role because of it
find something to replace video games like a girlfriend and you will have a lot of free time believe me
I know it seems like every little thing you do needs to be done on the computer, but it really doesn't.
Worst case scenario, go to your school or public library and use the computers there.
Worst case scenario, go to your school or public library and use the computers there.
Make video games a reward. If you don't earn playing by getting your shit done, then you don't play. If you do earn it, then you play, and have all that much more fun.
but seriously work before play
You can:
Change your steam password to a bunch of random numbers then email it to yourself later using IFTTT, or give it to your parents/someone that won't use your account.
Set a schedule- train yourself to do homework before playing.
Also, the environment really affects my motivation to work. If I'm at school I get things done 2x faster. You could try doing your work at school instead of at a place where you will be unmotivated and distracted.
Change your steam password to a bunch of random numbers then email it to yourself later using [url=https://ifttt.com/]IFTTT[/url], or give it to your parents/someone that won't use your account.
Set a schedule- train yourself to do homework before playing.
Also, the environment really affects my motivation to work. If I'm at school I get things done 2x faster. You could try doing your work at school instead of at a place where you will be unmotivated and distracted.
I went through a period similiar to this a couple of years ago, on the back of a failed relationship I shut myself in and quit College, went on the dole (unemployment welfare) and sat around playing video games for a few months. Got to the point where I was demotivated about everything but after a while of doing nothing and not being bothered I got fed up and started applying myself and got an oppurtunity (working for the welfare office ironically enough) and it was much more rewarding than sitting on my ass on video games 12 hours a day.
You won't learn to apply yourself from an internet board, you won't learn what you want from life here, only thing I can say is if you fall into that cycle, it can be hard to get out of because you become used to it. It's your choice though, you can go through like doing what you're doing now if it's what you want or you can do other things, from my point of view it was the experience of living my life like that for a while that told me I should get a career, earn money, look to move out or move abroad.
You can deal with it in different ways, medication, talking to people like a Doctor or in my case have somebody believe in me. But only you can do anything about it, all the advice in the world won't mean anything if you don't do it yourself.
You won't learn to apply yourself from an internet board, you won't learn what you want from life here, only thing I can say is if you fall into that cycle, it can be hard to get out of because you become used to it. It's your choice though, you can go through like doing what you're doing now if it's what you want or you can do other things, from my point of view it was the experience of living my life like that for a while that told me I should get a career, earn money, look to move out or move abroad.
You can deal with it in different ways, medication, talking to people like a Doctor or in my case have somebody believe in me. But only you can do anything about it, all the advice in the world won't mean anything if you don't do it yourself.
Quit your dumb sport if you don't like it. Why play it? Because your parents want you to? I played varsity/elite soccer until my junior year of high school - I had practice for 3-4 hours a day, 7 days a week. I dreaded going, but I soon realized that I could just quit and my parent would probably respect my decision.
It's really hard to take your mind out of the dumb claustrophobic high school ecosystem, but realize its not so bad.
If you don't care about college, I'd suggest just relaxing and maybe trying to find a part time job instead of baseball. Money and shitty work would be a hell of a lot better than a shitty sport and a lot of stress.
If you do want to eventually peruse a skillful career, just focus on getting good grades (and SAT/ACT scores) so you can go to any school/place you want when you graduate. You don't even have to do all the homework, just enough to get you a ~3.5 GPA. (I ended up with a 3.2 and got into every university I applied to, but looking back, I wish I just aced everything and did my homework because come on, a monkey could do it if it just studied a little bit for everything)
Realize that YOU are in control of your grades, most of the information you are learning is utterly meaningless to you, and almost none of it will apply to your field of study or career. Look forward to the future and try to separate yourself from all of the bullshit.
It's really hard to take your mind out of the dumb claustrophobic high school ecosystem, but realize its not so bad.
If you don't care about college, I'd suggest just relaxing and maybe trying to find a part time job instead of baseball. Money and shitty work would be a hell of a lot better than a shitty sport and a lot of stress.
If you do want to eventually peruse a skillful career, just focus on getting good grades (and SAT/ACT scores) so you can go to any school/place you want when you graduate. You don't even have to do all the homework, just enough to get you a ~3.5 GPA. (I ended up with a 3.2 and got into every university I applied to, but looking back, I wish I just aced everything and did my homework because come on, a monkey could do it if it just studied a little bit for everything)
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Realize that YOU are in control of your grades, most of the information you are learning is utterly meaningless to you, and almost none of it will apply to your field of study or career.[/b] Look forward to the future and try to separate yourself from all of the bullshit.
You gotta remind yourself that they're just video games. I know that sounds easier than it actually is, but what you need to realize is the life you can have is a whole lot more fun than video games or the life you're choosing.
Just remember: you're not in high school to learn chemistry or algebra or grammatical structure or whatever. Those are nice side effects. You're in high school to learn how to manage your time and effort. To learn how to plan ahead. Don't think of your homework as specific subjects. Think of them as a set of tasks that you just need to put onto the calendar. If you can turn 45 minutes of history homework into a nice little box on a planner, it's a whole lot less frustrating to actually knock it out when it's time comes.
3-5 hours of homework is a lot, but it's not the end of the world, especially because it sounds like you're really bad at planning out your time anyways, which usually means a lot of breaks. I'd bet that if you were actually motivated to get it done, you could do it in 3 hours max. Even better, you can knock it down into 4 45 minute sections, or 6 30 minute sections, or however much time each subject needs. I always found it way easier to sit down and do half an hour of math homework than to get started with 3 hours of all homework. It gives you an achievable goal. Don't take breaks before you've finished with a particular subject. All a break does is get you out of the zone.
To start with, write EVERYTHING down. Make a pretty planner with nice little boxes, or use your phone's calendar function. Whatever works for you. Just schedule everything on it. School, practices, shower, video games, bedtime, everything. As you internalize your routine you can maybe let some of the written stuff slide. Just stick to the schedule. It's tempting to come home and want to unwind for a minute and get on steam and maybe play a few games, but before you know it it's 10 PM and you haven't done a damn thing yet. Don't sign into steam until the alarm you have set for it goes off, and sign off of steam (all the way offline, not just away) when it's time to stop. That's really all you can do.
Also, fuck all this stuff about medication and ADD and stuff. This is something a LOT of high school kids go through. Like, 95% of kids. If you think medicine is something you need to function in everyday life, then go for it, but if you're looking for some adderall because you're struggling to sit down and do your homework after school, then I'd say forget it. The side effects aren't worth it.
Good luck, brother. Just remember that it gets so much worse a couple years from now when your schedule gets even less well-defined. Lock it down now and you won't have one of those cool panic meltdowns when you're halfway to winter break in your first year of college and you realize that you haven't done a damn thing besides eat weird dining hall food and get really really good at guitar hero.
3-5 hours of homework is a lot, but it's not the end of the world, especially because it sounds like you're really bad at planning out your time anyways, which usually means a lot of breaks. I'd bet that if you were actually motivated to get it done, you could do it in 3 hours max. Even better, you can knock it down into 4 45 minute sections, or 6 30 minute sections, or however much time each subject needs. I always found it way easier to sit down and do half an hour of math homework than to get started with 3 hours of all homework. It gives you an achievable goal. Don't take breaks before you've finished with a particular subject. All a break does is get you out of the zone.
To start with, write EVERYTHING down. Make a pretty planner with nice little boxes, or use your phone's calendar function. Whatever works for you. Just schedule everything on it. School, practices, shower, video games, bedtime, everything. As you internalize your routine you can maybe let some of the written stuff slide. Just stick to the schedule. It's tempting to come home and want to unwind for a minute and get on steam and maybe play a few games, but before you know it it's 10 PM and you haven't done a damn thing yet. Don't sign into steam until the alarm you have set for it goes off, and sign off of steam (all the way offline, not just away) when it's time to stop. That's really all you can do.
Also, fuck all this stuff about medication and ADD and stuff. This is something a LOT of high school kids go through. Like, 95% of kids. If you think medicine is something you need to function in everyday life, then go for it, but if you're looking for some adderall because you're struggling to sit down and do your homework after school, then I'd say forget it. The side effects aren't worth it.
Good luck, brother. Just remember that it gets so much worse a couple years from now when your schedule gets even less well-defined. Lock it down now and you won't have one of those cool panic meltdowns when you're halfway to winter break in your first year of college and you realize that you haven't done a damn thing besides eat weird dining hall food and get really really good at guitar hero.
Hey man I know exactly how you feel. I still struggle to stay motivated but what I did was find a college I want to go to. It's really hard for me to do anything unless I have some sort of reason to actually get it done for my own interests. For example, I cleaned my car for the first time in 3 months because I had a "date" on Friday. The college I wanna go to isn't very hard to get into and it's kinda overpriced, just like every school in 'merica, but it at least gave me some sort of goal.
I used to have problems getting to sleep on a reasonable time too, but then I just started jacking off at 11:30 and not 2am and that problem was solved.
I used to have problems getting to sleep on a reasonable time too, but then I just started jacking off at 11:30 and not 2am and that problem was solved.
Everything is worth learning, don't let any fuckwit tell you otherwise. "Oh it's not related to my career or what I want to do." Bullshit, learn everything you can, but don't cram it in or rush it. You're 16, not 60. Most importantly, Don't give up on studying. TF2 and other video games is not a lucrative profession, so don't convince yourself you can develop yourself enough to make money off of it. Don't sacrifice your education to play a pug or MGE or level in WoW. It's hard to motivate yourself to just do homework and skip leisure. I know, because I had the greatest attitude in high school that helped me keep a 3.7 GPA in a private school where I had no business or proper educational requirements to get into. But right now in college, it's hard to give a shit when nobody is pressuring you. You can do it, just remember always that your family is depending on you to not be a lazy bum.
I spent most of my time playing video games instead of studying etc.
I regret it every fucking waking day, and you will too.
I regret it every fucking waking day, and you will too.