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How to overcome phobia?
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I am arachnophobic, spiders are again starting to appear in my house and lately I've been finding spider eggs in the house as well. I feel like I should start to overcome my phobia before the damn spiders get born somewhere where I didn't notice them.

So if there is any ex-phobic please tell me how you overcame your phobia please.

I am arachnophobic, spiders are again starting to appear in my house and lately I've been finding spider eggs in the house as well. I feel like I should start to overcome my phobia before the damn spiders get born somewhere where I didn't notice them.

So if there is any ex-phobic please tell me how you overcame your phobia please.
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Just beat the shit out of the spider man. You're bigger than the spider.

Just beat the shit out of the spider man. You're bigger than the spider.
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VandJust beat the shit out of the spider man. You're bigger than the spider.

but they're so fast dude

[quote=Vand]Just beat the shit out of the spider man. You're bigger than the spider.[/quote]
but they're so fast dude
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exposure is the best way to overcome fear, its very hard to but slowly expose yourself to them more and more, and then over time you'll become less and less afraid of them

exposure is the best way to overcome fear, its very hard to but slowly expose yourself to them more and more, and then over time you'll become less and less afraid of them
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yo if its a real phobia btw the worst thing you can do is confront your fear. trying to force yourself to deal with it this way is only going to reinforce your fear and make it stronger. if you really have a phobia (extreme and irrational fear, having panic attacks from close contact, cant sleep from fear, ect) you need a therapist to systematically desensitize your fear which will take a lot of fucking money and time. im getting the vibe that you maybe dont have a clinical phobia and youre just really scared of them, so maybe look into buying repellents or some shit like that so you dont have to touch them.

yo if its a real phobia btw the worst thing you can do is confront your fear. trying to force yourself to deal with it this way is only going to reinforce your fear and make it stronger. if you really have a phobia (extreme and irrational fear, having panic attacks from close contact, cant sleep from fear, ect) you need a therapist to systematically desensitize your fear which will take a lot of fucking money and time. im getting the vibe that you maybe dont have a clinical phobia and youre just really scared of them, so maybe look into buying repellents or some shit like that so you dont have to touch them.
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huge_hubris_guyVandJust beat the shit out of the spider man. You're bigger than the spider.but they're so fast dude

so true

Air_exposure is the best way to overcome fear, its very hard to but slowly expose yourself to them more and more, and then over time you'll become less and less afraid of them

I will try that, thanks

Infinity_yo if its a real phobia btw the worst thing you can do is confront your fear. trying to force yourself to deal with it this way is only going to reinforce your fear and make it stronger. if you really have a phobia (extreme and irrational fear, having panic attacks from close contact, cant sleep from fear, ect) you need a therapist to systematically desensitize your fear which will take a lot of fucking money and time. im getting the vibe that you maybe dont have a clinical phobia and youre just really scared of them, so maybe look into buying repellents or some shit like that so you dont have to touch them.

You are probably right, I will have to look into the difference between phobia and fear. I am very scared of spiders tho, once found a spider baby in dorm showers so I was showering in another floor for like a week and I can't fall asleep without checking surroundings for spiders first. I have few bottles of repellents but I just don't want to be scared anymore.

[quote=huge_hubris_guy][quote=Vand]Just beat the shit out of the spider man. You're bigger than the spider.[/quote]
but they're so fast dude[/quote]
so true

[quote=Air_]exposure is the best way to overcome fear, its very hard to but slowly expose yourself to them more and more, and then over time you'll become less and less afraid of them[/quote]
I will try that, thanks

[quote=Infinity_]yo if its a real phobia btw the worst thing you can do is confront your fear. trying to force yourself to deal with it this way is only going to reinforce your fear and make it stronger. if you really have a phobia (extreme and irrational fear, having panic attacks from close contact, cant sleep from fear, ect) you need a therapist to systematically desensitize your fear which will take a lot of fucking money and time. im getting the vibe that you maybe dont have a clinical phobia and youre just really scared of them, so maybe look into buying repellents or some shit like that so you dont have to touch them.[/quote]
You are probably right, I will have to look into the difference between phobia and fear. I am very scared of spiders tho, once found a spider baby in dorm showers so I was showering in another floor for like a week and I can't fall asleep without checking surroundings for spiders first. I have few bottles of repellents but I just don't want to be scared anymore.
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systematic desensitization

systematic desensitization
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just watch the end of coraline over and over again

just watch the end of coraline over and over again
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just eat enough of them, that’s how I overcame my fear of other people

just eat enough of them, that’s how I overcame my fear of other people
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When I was around 5 or 6 my dad was attacked by a german shepard. It stuck w me and I had a phobia for dogs for the following years. Couldn't pass one on the sidewalk without crying. And obviously dogs can tell you're scared and start barking at you so it just made things worse

Exposure is quite easy to have too much of. And it's difficult regardless of how much. But in the end having to spend time with dogs (holidays in houses where owners had dogs, carpooling to school everyday so I went to a friend's house every morning who had a dog, etc) is what helped me get over it. I like dogs now. Took about 7 to 8 years to get over it.

It's difficult, but consider these spiders a challenge to yourself like I considered being with those dogs one. Consider these spiders not the problem you need solved, consider them the solution to your phobia. It's up to you how you deal with them. I prefer capturing and putting spiders outside using tupperware boxes etc but perhaps you prefer just killing them which is a valid solution if it helps you

Spiders in Europe aren't dangerous and it's important to keep that in mind. They will not harm you. I'm certain plenty of people have told/will tell you that (I heard it a lot as well) but it's important you convince yourself of that fact

None of us are professionals though and if in the long term you really don't see yourself getting over it I suggest consulting one

When I was around 5 or 6 my dad was attacked by a german shepard. It stuck w me and I had a phobia for dogs for the following years. Couldn't pass one on the sidewalk without crying. And obviously dogs can tell you're scared and start barking at you so it just made things worse

Exposure is quite easy to have too much of. And it's difficult regardless of how much. But in the end having to spend time with dogs (holidays in houses where owners had dogs, carpooling to school everyday so I went to a friend's house every morning who had a dog, etc) is what helped me get over it. I like dogs now. Took about 7 to 8 years to get over it.

It's difficult, but consider these spiders a challenge to yourself like I considered being with those dogs one. Consider these spiders not the problem you need solved, consider them the solution to your phobia. It's up to you how you deal with them. I prefer capturing and putting spiders outside using tupperware boxes etc but perhaps you prefer just killing them which is a valid solution if it helps you

Spiders in Europe aren't dangerous and it's important to keep that in mind. They will not harm you. I'm certain plenty of people have told/will tell you that (I heard it a lot as well) but it's important you convince yourself of that fact

None of us are professionals though and if in the long term you really don't see yourself getting over it I suggest consulting one
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#11
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Watch Exotic Lair on youtube. ( https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJIW-bpoAsZY5vnsEShgTSw )

Videos like his make tarantulas (and many other animals) fascinating or even cute rather than scary.

Watch Exotic Lair on youtube. ( https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJIW-bpoAsZY5vnsEShgTSw )

Videos like his make tarantulas (and many other animals) fascinating or even cute rather than scary.
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good thing youre not australian
any technique youll do will require a lot of time, be prepared of that

good thing youre not australian
any technique youll do will require a lot of time, be prepared of that
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#13
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https://www.bugasalt.com/products/bug-a-salt-3-0-black-fly-edition?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIy82MoPqS6QIVjP_jBx0RPQz9EAAYASAAEgIZifD_BwE
get this and your problem will be over friend

https://www.bugasalt.com/products/bug-a-salt-3-0-black-fly-edition?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIy82MoPqS6QIVjP_jBx0RPQz9EAAYASAAEgIZifD_BwE
get this and your problem will be over friend
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i'm not afraid of spiders spiders are afraid of me

i'm not afraid of spiders spiders are afraid of me
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I'm not an ex-phobic but I remember a little bit about phobias from school.

I don't know how available it is or how easy it is to do for yourself, but there's a thing called systematic desensitisation which is quite commonly used for treating phobias.

Essentially you construct a pyramid of scenarios involving what you are afraid of, so you would start off with something small like looking at a picture of a spider, ranging all the way up to something more extreme like touching/holding a spider. Over time you gradually expose yourself to these scenarios by working your way up the pyramid, this way you gradually build up a tolerance until you eventually lose the fear - its supposed to help if you memorise relaxation techniques to make the steps more bearable.

Hope this helps bro

I'm not an ex-phobic but I remember a little bit about phobias from school.

I don't know how available it is or how easy it is to do for yourself, but there's a thing called systematic desensitisation which is quite commonly used for treating phobias.

Essentially you construct a pyramid of scenarios involving what you are afraid of, so you would start off with something small like looking at a picture of a spider, ranging all the way up to something more extreme like touching/holding a spider. Over time you gradually expose yourself to these scenarios by working your way up the pyramid, this way you gradually build up a tolerance until you eventually lose the fear - its supposed to help if you memorise relaxation techniques to make the steps more bearable.

Hope this helps bro
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stop being a pussy

stop being a pussy
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2345ysystematic desensitizationTobExposure is quite easy to have too much of. And it's difficult regardless of how much. But in the end having to spend time with dogs (holidays in houses where owners had dogs, carpooling to school everyday so I went to a friend's house every morning who had a dog, etc) is what helped me get over it. I like dogs now. Took about 7 to 8 years to get over it.

It's difficult, but consider these spiders a challenge to yourself like I considered being with those dogs one. Consider these spiders not the problem you need solved, consider them the solution to your phobia. It's up to you how you deal with them. I prefer capturing and putting spiders outside using tupperware boxes etc but perhaps you prefer just killing them which is a valid solution if it helps you

Spiders in Europe aren't dangerous and it's important to keep that in mind. They will not harm you. I'm certain plenty of people have told/will tell you that (I heard it a lot as well) but it's important you convince yourself of that fact

None of us are professionals though and if in the long term you really don't see yourself getting over it I suggest consulting one
Cabbage_Watch Exotic Lair on youtube. ( https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJIW-bpoAsZY5vnsEShgTSw )

Videos like his make tarantulas (and many other animals) fascinating or even cute rather than scary.
ValorousTFI'm not an ex-phobic but I remember a little bit about phobias from school.

I don't know how available it is or how easy it is to do for yourself, but there's a thing called systematic desensitisation which is quite commonly used for treating phobias.

Essentially you construct a pyramid of scenarios involving what you are afraid of, so you would start off with something small like looking at a picture of a spider, ranging all the way up to something more extreme like touching/holding a spider. Over time you gradually expose yourself to these scenarios by working your way up the pyramid, this way you gradually build up a tolerance until you eventually lose the fear - its supposed to help if you memorise relaxation techniques to make the steps more bearable.
Hope this helps bro

Thanks guys, I will start with that.

dbkjust watch the end of coraline over and over againYeeHawjust eat enough of them, that’s how I overcame my fear of other peopleGarbageKnappstop being a pussy

If only I could that easily.

Rockzgood thing youre not australian
any technique youll do will require a lot of time, be prepared of that

Every time I read any story from Australia regarding spiders I'm more glad I'm living in Europe. Their spiders are huge and really scary.

Errdumhttps://www.bugasalt.com/products/bug-a-salt-3-0-black-fly-edition?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIy82MoPqS6QIVjP_jBx0RPQz9EAAYASAAEgIZifD_BwE
get this and your problem will be over friend

Thanks but spider sprays are cheaper and I don't have to load them every time :P .

[quote=2345y]systematic desensitization[/quote]
[quote=Tob]Exposure is quite easy to have too much of. And it's difficult regardless of how much. But in the end having to spend time with dogs (holidays in houses where owners had dogs, carpooling to school everyday so I went to a friend's house every morning who had a dog, etc) is what helped me get over it. I like dogs now. Took about 7 to 8 years to get over it.

It's difficult, but consider these spiders a challenge to yourself like I considered being with those dogs one. Consider these spiders not the problem you need solved, consider them the solution to your phobia. It's up to you how you deal with them. I prefer capturing and putting spiders outside using tupperware boxes etc but perhaps you prefer just killing them which is a valid solution if it helps you

Spiders in Europe aren't dangerous and it's important to keep that in mind. They will not harm you. I'm certain plenty of people have told/will tell you that (I heard it a lot as well) but it's important you convince yourself of that fact

None of us are professionals though and if in the long term you really don't see yourself getting over it I suggest consulting one[/quote]
[quote=Cabbage_]Watch Exotic Lair on youtube. ( https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJIW-bpoAsZY5vnsEShgTSw )

Videos like his make tarantulas (and many other animals) fascinating or even cute rather than scary.[/quote]
[quote=ValorousTF]I'm not an ex-phobic but I remember a little bit about phobias from school.

I don't know how available it is or how easy it is to do for yourself, but there's a thing called systematic desensitisation which is quite commonly used for treating phobias.

Essentially you construct a pyramid of scenarios involving what you are afraid of, so you would start off with something small like looking at a picture of a spider, ranging all the way up to something more extreme like touching/holding a spider. Over time you gradually expose yourself to these scenarios by working your way up the pyramid, this way you gradually build up a tolerance until you eventually lose the fear - its supposed to help if you memorise relaxation techniques to make the steps more bearable.
Hope this helps bro[/quote]
Thanks guys, I will start with that.


[quote=dbk]just watch the end of coraline over and over again[/quote]
[quote=YeeHaw]just eat enough of them, that’s how I overcame my fear of other people[/quote]
[quote=GarbageKnapp]stop being a pussy[/quote]
If only I could that easily.

[quote=Rockz]good thing youre not australian
any technique youll do will require a lot of time, be prepared of that[/quote]
Every time I read any story from Australia regarding spiders I'm more glad I'm living in Europe. Their spiders are huge and really scary.


[quote=Errdum]https://www.bugasalt.com/products/bug-a-salt-3-0-black-fly-edition?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIy82MoPqS6QIVjP_jBx0RPQz9EAAYASAAEgIZifD_BwE
get this and your problem will be over friend[/quote]
Thanks but spider sprays are cheaper and I don't have to load them every time :P .
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YeeHawjust eat enough of them, that’s how I overcame my fear of other people

yo wtf

[quote=YeeHaw]just eat enough of them, that’s how I overcame my fear of other people[/quote]
yo wtf
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being afraid of spiders isnt a phobia, its common sense. they are known predators and like to crawl into your mouth at night while you are most vulnerable.

being afraid of spiders isnt a phobia, its common sense. they are known predators and like to crawl into your mouth at night while you are most vulnerable.
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