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depends, aspergers? what are you dealing with here

Unless your sister is very young, that she was "just diagnosed" with it suggests that her condition isn't immediately obvious. I'd hope you just treat her as a normal human being as you always have, and absolutely make sure nobody outside of your family learns of it. This isn't to suggest that her autism is something to be ashamed of, but that people are stupid and you can only influence your own actions.

its not developmental. we've always thought she had some problems adjusting in social situations and she obsessed over some things. idk if this will hurt her social and career aspirations in the future.

Dont have a family member who has autism but I tutor a child who has aspergers and honestly its a great experience. Really taught me to be flexible in the way that I taught math and I really learnt alot about tutoring during my 2 years of tutoring him. Helped me get experience so that I could get a part time job as a tutor at a community center.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7IJer_6j6t8

Watch this video. Then go watch the entire series "Derek" (on Netflix) because it's absolutely amazing.

I realize it's fictional but it might give you some things to think about.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=2zFbwIcUti4

yeah my brother has autism
actually my mom wrote the article on autism for wikipedia and the main image is of my brother when he was like 4.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autism

You can add me if you want to talk. I have a younger brother with autism. I understand your situation and can give you some advice and tips if you need it.

Here's one key thing to take note though. Do not stop caring about your sister and continue to establish communication with her. If there is one thing that is an incredibly shitty thing to do is to stop talking or feigning ignorance to someone who has autism. It will help her continue to improve on communication despite her disability and hone in on her critical thinking on ways to most effectively understand things.

where did this come from and what were you thinking when you wrote it

"ya we just found out my sibling has trouble with social queues im just gonna ignore her now"

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that kinda sounds like my older sister...she has aspergers but wasn't diagnosed with it until she was 19. At the moment she's in graduate school for laboratory science or something like that... as long as your sister finds a craft she's good at she will probably be fine career-wise

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I work with children on the Autism spectrum, my kids skew more towards the severe side (most have other things going on, like Smith-Lemli-Opitz, Fragile X, etc), but I can help with some insight if you're ever curious for more anecdotal advice and more practical adaptations you can provide to help her live an independent and happy life.

You can also check out these 2 sites:

http://www.autisminternetmodules.org/
http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/mindinstitute/

Basically a bunch of people that are 1,000x smarter than I am that can help your family.

In my experience with friends family and myself, the hardest important thing for people who are autistic is learning how to function in society. If it's so bad that she can't adapt or adjust, she *can* get disability as an adult. I have an ASD, and my experience definitely does not speak for autism in general because it's not a disabling form, but functioning in society and trauma from how people who were unaware of my condition treated me as I grew up are my biggest problems.

High functioning autism can be extremely case specific, so take most non-professional advice with a grain of salt, but remember that autism doesn't have to be a stigma, and that being diagnosed with autism doesn't instantly make every symptom appear in a form which the person can't work around or cope with, especially in intelligent people. I'm also gonna say that I agree with sonnyjaboy, and if there's any trouble with her in terms of communicating with people, *DO NOT* turn a blind eye to that, because the more accurately and eloquently she can speak for herself when she needs to, the much much easier life with autism is going to be.

If we are talking anywhere on the spectrum, I have a friend with Aspergers, and I myself have Sensory Processing Disorder, but it's pretty mild. Not straight Autism, but not fun.

My little brother has autism, thankfully he was diagnosed pretty young so they could start the treatment early.

Unfortunately the 5 years of therapy doesn't seem to have done much. He's still non-verbal.

And to be honest, I cope with it really poorly. I've been interacting less and less with my family as of late, and I'm starting to think the stress they've been under because of his development might have something to do with my desire to be more disconnected. Here's hoping you have a different time.

My little cousin Joey (who just turned 20... Christ I'm old) has autism as well as severe downs. He is a total sweetheart but he is basically a 3 year old trapped in a 20 year old body. Autism on its own can be mild in some cases. The doctors can give you a general idea of what to expect, but it's really hard to say how it will turn out

Autism should be understood less as a singular disease and more of an array of disorders which are not understood very well at all and are thus put under the blanket term "autism". Every single autistic person I've run into (and I've met several being as 1/2 of my Cadet teaching experience was for a specialized curriculum for those with severe learning problems) has been wildly different from each other.

From everything I've ever read on the disoder(s), we'll likely never understand it fully until we fully understand the brain - and that's generations away.

The important thing is to treat them like you would any other person - in so far as respect, because it's often the case that, although they, sometimes, can't properly express it, they still think and feel the same way most folks do.

my brother has slight autism and they found out early on thankfully even though hes 24 now he still has some struggles and ever since I was like 10 years old I kinda just stopped talking to him so yea just keep talking to your sister man and hope she'll grow out, good luck dude.

yeah it's pretty dumb when you think about it, but it happens constantly in society. Think about what someone would do if they were very anti-homosexuality and a friend of there's who they've known for some time and have really enjoyed being around confided in them that they were gay; there's a good chance that person would respond with either anger and an aggressive demeanor or they'd just cut off all affiliations with the person.

My little cousin has autism and she's 12 now. She likes to play piano,draw and paint, and she loves the Mario and Sonic video game franchises. As for her autism, she has difficulty forming sentences and expressing herself in words. I'm only a junior in high school so I don't know too much about the "professional choice" or "adult choice" but all I can say is, as sonnyjaboy said, just treat her like a person.
She's still part of your family and for that you should love her and treat her like a normal human being, because there are some pretty rude dudes out there who will look down on her.
As for how I personally deal with it, I play video games with her and ask her how she is when I see her.