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Help me find my father.
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First, before anybody reads this, it's mostly asked to anybody who lives in Doylestown Borough in Bucks county, Pennsylvania.

Yesterday at 9:30 AM, my dad left me and both of my eleven year old brothers at home to go to work like he does every week. Only when my mom called from work asking if I'd heard from him, I hadn't, and she informed me that he never showed up for work did I get worried. We fear the worse because he left notes in his room for all of us. We filed an "endangered missing persons" report, but it's been 24 hours and still nothing.

Me and my family are new here, including him, so can anybody who lives or knows of the area I specified please answer this for me:

Where could he have gone?

The police won't search anywhere specific unless we give them an idea of where he could have gone, and we don't know anybody around here who could help, so I'm hoping like hell somebody here lives in this area too.

I'll be refreshing this page damn near constantly in hopes of seeing a helpful response.

First, before anybody reads this, it's mostly asked to anybody who lives in Doylestown Borough in Bucks county, Pennsylvania.

Yesterday at 9:30 AM, my dad left me and both of my eleven year old brothers at home to go to work like he does every week. Only when my mom called from work asking if I'd heard from him, I hadn't, and she informed me that he never showed up for work did I get worried. We fear the worse because he left notes in his room for all of us. We filed an "endangered missing persons" report, but it's been 24 hours and still nothing.

Me and my family are new here, including him, so can anybody who lives or knows of the area I specified please answer this for me:

Where could he have gone?

The police won't search anywhere specific unless we give them an idea of where he could have gone, and we don't know anybody around here who could help, so I'm hoping like hell somebody here lives in this area too.

I'll be refreshing this page damn near constantly in hopes of seeing a helpful response.
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what was in the notes

what was in the notes
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scrimshawwhat was in the notes

They each were apology notes, saying he loved us, how sorry he was, and that this was his only option.

[quote=scrimshaw]what was in the notes[/quote]

They each were apology notes, saying he loved us, how sorry he was, and that this was his only option.
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I don't want to be that guy but he could have killed himself?

I don't want to be that guy but he could have killed himself?
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You should probably post this on reddit or something.

You should probably post this on reddit or something.
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GeknaiirI don't want to be that guy but he could have killed himself?Mr_Owl
he is a disgusting racist and he doesnt understand most social customs
[quote=Geknaiir]I don't want to be that guy but he could have killed himself?[/quote]


[quote=Mr_Owl]

he is a disgusting racist and he doesnt understand most social customs [/quote]
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I wish you guys the best of luck. Stay strong and keep looking for him.

I wish you guys the best of luck. Stay strong and keep looking for him.
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It's incredibly sad that he thought to leave before talking out his issues with you and your family, you can only hope that him getting some space from the situation will make him act more reasonably before something irreversibly awful (like suicide?) happens to him. My thoughts are with you and your family.

It's incredibly sad that he thought to leave before talking out his issues with you and your family, you can only hope that him getting some space from the situation will make him act more reasonably before something irreversibly awful (like suicide?) happens to him. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Does he have a car he took to work or a cell phone that can be traced? Also you should probably check with any other family/friends/coworkers to see if he hinted at any of this with them.

Does he have a car he took to work or a cell phone that can be traced? Also you should probably check with any other family/friends/coworkers to see if he hinted at any of this with them.
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phAZEDoes he have a car he took to work or a cell phone that can be traced? Also you should probably check with any other family/friends/coworkers to see if he hinted at any of this with them.

He took his car with him, and he turned his phone off, which he NEVER does. His note to my mother said that "I've been planning this for months." So if he had told anybody, this wouldn't be happening.

[quote=phAZE]Does he have a car he took to work or a cell phone that can be traced? Also you should probably check with any other family/friends/coworkers to see if he hinted at any of this with them.[/quote]

He took his car with him, and he turned his phone off, which he NEVER does. His note to my mother said that "I've been planning this for months." So if he had told anybody, this wouldn't be happening.
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Are there any relatives or good friends he has nearby that he has had increased contact with lately?
Is there anyway to track bank transactions from an account he has access?

Are there any relatives or good friends he has nearby that he has had increased contact with lately?
Is there anyway to track bank transactions from an account he has access?
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cage-Are there any relatives or good friends he has nearby that he has had increased contact with lately?
Is there anyway to track bank transactions from an account he has access?

No. The nearest family is in Tennessee, and those are his parents, and him and my mom share the same account, which is nearly barren as is, so the most he could afford is some gas, but even that's a stretch.

[quote=cage-]Are there any relatives or good friends he has nearby that he has had increased contact with lately?
Is there anyway to track bank transactions from an account he has access?[/quote]

No. The nearest family is in Tennessee, and those are his parents, and him and my mom share the same account, which is nearly barren as is, so the most he could afford is some gas, but even that's a stretch.
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#13
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Seems like the car is the only item you've got to work with. Did you give the police a description of the car / license plate?

If his car has an embedded GPS, the car company might be able to find the location of the car. It's a long shot, but it's something.

Did he take anything of note with him? Something he might leave behind, or use (ie. candy wrapper)?

Seems like the car is the only item you've got to work with. Did you give the police a description of the car / license plate?

If his car has an embedded GPS, the car company might be able to find the location of the car. It's a long shot, but it's something.

Did he take anything of note with him? Something he might leave behind, or use (ie. candy wrapper)?
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HKSeems like the car is the only item you've got to work with. Did you give the police a description of the car / license plate?

If his car has an embedded GPS, the car company might be able to find the location of the car. It's a long shot, but it's something.

Did he take anything of note with him? Something he might leave behind, or use (ie. candy wrapper)?

Yes. The license plate is easy to spot because he's a Tennessee football fan, so the front tag has the Volunteers symbol on it, and the back plate has an orange Tennessee frame. The police also have a detail description of him AND the car. And he didn't take anything at all with him, as if he was just normally going to work.

That's the scary part. Most times when somebody is about to do something like we thought he did, they are more happy or something. He was perfectly, totally ordinary. Even are the same small breakfast, and was even making plans for later in the week.

[quote=HK]Seems like the car is the only item you've got to work with. Did you give the police a description of the car / license plate?

If his car has an embedded GPS, the car company might be able to find the location of the car. It's a long shot, but it's something.

Did he take anything of note with him? Something he might leave behind, or use (ie. candy wrapper)?[/quote]

Yes. The license plate is easy to spot because he's a Tennessee football fan, so the front tag has the Volunteers symbol on it, and the back plate has an orange Tennessee frame. The police also have a detail description of him AND the car. And he didn't take anything at all with him, as if he was just normally going to work.

That's the scary part. Most times when somebody is about to do something like we thought he did, they are more happy or something. He was perfectly, totally ordinary. Even are the same small breakfast, and was even making plans for later in the week.
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Some guy on reddit found a lost relative by posting on that city/state's subreddit and they were able to find them through that. Nothing I can suggest other than give every detail/description that you/your family can think of to the authorities. Favorite restaurants, activities, sports team, etc.
Edit: Here's the article: http://mashable.com/2014/04/23/redditor-finds-missing-mom/

Some guy on reddit found a lost relative by posting on that city/state's subreddit and they were able to find them through that. Nothing I can suggest other than give every detail/description that you/your family can think of to the authorities. Favorite restaurants, activities, sports team, etc.
Edit: Here's the article: http://mashable.com/2014/04/23/redditor-finds-missing-mom/
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I wouldn't worry about suicide unless he's been depressed for a while which you haven't stated. That shit doesn't just come out of nowhere. I hope all goes well, hopefully he just needed to get away for a few days.

I wouldn't worry about suicide unless he's been depressed for a while which you haven't stated. That shit doesn't just come out of nowhere. I hope all goes well, hopefully he just needed to get away for a few days.
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-protoI wouldn't worry about suicide unless he's been depressed for a while which you haven't stated. That shit doesn't just come out of nowhere. I hope all goes well, hopefully he just needed to get away for a few days.

That doesn't quite explain the fact that all manner of pain pills are now gone from the house.

[quote=-proto]I wouldn't worry about suicide unless he's been depressed for a while which you haven't stated. That shit doesn't just come out of nowhere. I hope all goes well, hopefully he just needed to get away for a few days.[/quote]

That doesn't quite explain the fact that all manner of pain pills are now gone from the house.
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oh shit

oh shit
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You have to find a lead in some way very quickly. Imo it sounds like a manifesto

You have to find a lead in some way very quickly. Imo it sounds like a manifesto
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It's always hard to see what someone means by saying "this was his only option" It could mean anything from an affair to suicide, but running away from society is also possible, it's a bit odd he only left a note without any detail on where he went, and that must also be really stressfull..

Try to think if you're dad was really down the last couple of months, or whining about how unfair some things are, or if he was more stressed/happy

It's always a pain to hear these things, not being able to be there for your loved ones is hard, I hope you'll find him!

It's always hard to see what someone means by saying "this was his only option" It could mean anything from an affair to suicide, but running away from society is also possible, it's a bit odd he only left a note without any detail on where he went, and that must also be really stressfull..

Try to think if you're dad was really down the last couple of months, or whining about how unfair some things are, or if he was more stressed/happy

It's always a pain to hear these things, not being able to be there for your loved ones is hard, I hope you'll find him!
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There are actually quite a few TF2 players in PA that post here (I don't know about Bucks county, specifically). I'm not really sure what any of those guys could guess on where he could have gone, though. The thing is that he could be anywhere, even outside of PA. My guess is that he's staying with a friend or someone new that he met, because I dunno what he would do with little money otherwise.

But as previously suggested, I would keep an eye on the bank account to look at transactions. Really sucks to hear about your situation, and hopefully he comes back.

There are actually quite a few TF2 players in PA that post here (I don't know about Bucks county, specifically). I'm not really sure what any of those guys could guess on where he could have gone, though. The thing is that he could be anywhere, even outside of PA. My guess is that he's staying with a friend or someone new that he met, because I dunno what he would do with little money otherwise.

But as previously suggested, I would keep an eye on the bank account to look at transactions. Really sucks to hear about your situation, and hopefully he comes back.
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ExquisiteStoneIt's always hard to see what someone means by saying "this was his only option" It could mean anything from an affair to suicide, but running away from society is also possible, it's a bit odd he only left a note without any detail on where he went, and that must also be really stressfull..

Try to think if you're dad was really down the last couple of months, or whining about how unfair some things are, or if he was more stressed/happy

It's always a pain to hear these things, not being able to be there for your loved ones is hard, I hope you'll find him!

I keep overhearing my mom on the phone saying stuff like, "He kept saying he felt like he was over his head in work and that nobody was helping him. And we kept worrying about money, but we always worried about it, and it's weird because every so often he would reassure me that we were chipping away at it."

I'm sorry I can't give you guys much else to work with.. I'm just very worried and I can't show it because my brothers will start worrying too. It doesn't help that he's extremely intelligent, so he clearly knew how to avoid being found...

[quote=ExquisiteStone]It's always hard to see what someone means by saying "this was his only option" It could mean anything from an affair to suicide, but running away from society is also possible, it's a bit odd he only left a note without any detail on where he went, and that must also be really stressfull..

Try to think if you're dad was really down the last couple of months, or whining about how unfair some things are, or if he was more stressed/happy

It's always a pain to hear these things, not being able to be there for your loved ones is hard, I hope you'll find him![/quote]

I keep overhearing my mom on the phone saying stuff like, "He kept saying he felt like he was over his head in work and that nobody was helping him. And we kept worrying about money, but we always worried about it, and it's weird because every so often he would reassure me that we were chipping away at it."

I'm sorry I can't give you guys much else to work with.. I'm just very worried and I can't show it because my brothers will start worrying too. It doesn't help that he's extremely intelligent, so he clearly knew how to avoid being found...
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LulzyExquisiteStoneIt's always hard to see what someone means by saying "this was his only option" It could mean anything from an affair to suicide, but running away from society is also possible, it's a bit odd he only left a note without any detail on where he went, and that must also be really stressfull..

Try to think if you're dad was really down the last couple of months, or whining about how unfair some things are, or if he was more stressed/happy

It's always a pain to hear these things, not being able to be there for your loved ones is hard, I hope you'll find him!

I keep overhearing my mom on the phone saying stuff like, "He kept saying he felt like he was over his head in work and that nobody was helping him. And we kept worrying about money, but we always worried about it, and it's weird because every so often he would reassure me that we were chipping away at it."

I'm sorry I can't give you guys much else to work with.. I'm just very worried and I can't show it because my brothers will start worrying too. It doesn't help that he's extremely intelligent, so he clearly knew how to avoid being found...

The painkiller thing is weird, because the rest of the story fits better with a runaway

[quote=Lulzy][quote=ExquisiteStone]It's always hard to see what someone means by saying "this was his only option" It could mean anything from an affair to suicide, but running away from society is also possible, it's a bit odd he only left a note without any detail on where he went, and that must also be really stressfull..

Try to think if you're dad was really down the last couple of months, or whining about how unfair some things are, or if he was more stressed/happy

It's always a pain to hear these things, not being able to be there for your loved ones is hard, I hope you'll find him![/quote]

I keep overhearing my mom on the phone saying stuff like, "He kept saying he felt like he was over his head in work and that nobody was helping him. And we kept worrying about money, but we always worried about it, and it's weird because every so often he would reassure me that we were chipping away at it."

I'm sorry I can't give you guys much else to work with.. I'm just very worried and I can't show it because my brothers will start worrying too. It doesn't help that he's extremely intelligent, so he clearly knew how to avoid being found...[/quote]
The painkiller thing is weird, because the rest of the story fits better with a runaway
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Most car have a tracker integrated. Call the car company, see if they can locate it. Think by deduction;

-he most likely didn't commit suicide or any form of self-harm, as you mentionned #14, he seemed fine in the morning when he left your home. Moreover, he seems to have a full family and a loving and caring son, no dad would ever forget that

-he didn't check-in work, so whatever happened, it had to happen between 9h30 and the time it takes him to get to work. This might help you narrow down essential details for the police

-the notes he left means whatever he did was most likely premeditated. Did he say anything that seemed odd in the notes? Maybe a word or expression he doesnt say much, maybe a reference to an event from the past? What is the tone of the notes? Does he seem determined? Sad? Helpless? Mad?

-you may be able to track him through his car, gps, or phone, even if it is off

-do you own any weapons at home? I am not from the US so dont know the gun reglementation in Pensilvania. If yes, are they still there? If not a gun, did ammunition disappear?

-try to think of when he went to work, did he do something he usually doesn't? Did he forget something minor that he usually brings to work? (My dad for example always brings floss...) That could indicate you whether he was planning on getting to work or not, but then again, why would he have left notes that morning if that was the case?

We are all with you, stay strong

Most car have a tracker integrated. Call the car company, see if they can locate it. Think by deduction;

-he most likely didn't commit suicide or any form of self-harm, as you mentionned #14, he seemed fine in the morning when he left your home. Moreover, he seems to have a full family and a loving and caring son, no dad would ever forget that

-he didn't check-in work, so whatever happened, it had to happen between 9h30 and the time it takes him to get to work. This might help you narrow down essential details for the police

-the notes he left means whatever he did was most likely premeditated. Did he say anything that seemed odd in the notes? Maybe a word or expression he doesnt say much, maybe a reference to an event from the past? What is the tone of the notes? Does he seem determined? Sad? Helpless? Mad?

-you may be able to track him through his car, gps, or phone, even if it is off

-do you own any weapons at home? I am not from the US so dont know the gun reglementation in Pensilvania. If yes, are they still there? If not a gun, did ammunition disappear?

-try to think of when he went to work, did he do something he usually doesn't? Did he forget something minor that he usually brings to work? (My dad for example always brings floss...) That could indicate you whether he was planning on getting to work or not, but then again, why would he have left notes that morning if that was the case?

We are all with you, stay strong
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NoCourtesyMost car have a tracker integrated. Call the car company, see if they can locate it. Think by deduction;

-he most likely didn't commit suicide or any form of self-harm, as you mentionned #14, he seemed fine in the morning when he left your home. Moreover, he seems to have a full family and a loving and caring son, no dad would ever forget that

-he didn't check-in work, so whatever happened, it had to happen between 9h30 and the time it takes him to get to work. This might help you narrow down essential details for the police

-the notes he left means whatever he did was most likely premeditated. Did he say anything that seemed odd in the notes? Maybe a word or expression he doesnt say much, maybe a reference to an event from the past? What is the tone of the notes? Does he seem determined? Sad? Helpless? Mad?

-you may be able to track him through his car, gps, or phone, even if it is off

-do you own any weapons at home? I am not from the US so dont know the gun reglementation in Pensilvania. If yes, are they still there? If not a gun, did ammunition disappear?

-try to think of when he went to work, did he do something he usually doesn't? Did he forget something minor that he usually brings to work? (My dad for example always brings floss...) That could indicate you whether he was planning on getting to work or not, but then again, why would he have left notes that morning if that was the case?

We are all with you, stay strong

Well, in the note to his parents, his note was more accusatory and angry then sad and apologetic, the police are aware of this as well, but as I said, they live all the way in Tennessee and he doesn't have the funds to drive that distance. Also, even if suicide isn't where he was going, he talked in the notes as if he was leaving at all. The note to me said; "Be strong for Beth (my mom) and your brothers, the next weeks will be hard on them."

As far as weapons go, his phone case is like a utility case, and it has a bunch of sharp objects in it, including a nice.

[quote=NoCourtesy]Most car have a tracker integrated. Call the car company, see if they can locate it. Think by deduction;

-he most likely didn't commit suicide or any form of self-harm, as you mentionned #14, he seemed fine in the morning when he left your home. Moreover, he seems to have a full family and a loving and caring son, no dad would ever forget that

-he didn't check-in work, so whatever happened, it had to happen between 9h30 and the time it takes him to get to work. This might help you narrow down essential details for the police

-the notes he left means whatever he did was most likely premeditated. Did he say anything that seemed odd in the notes? Maybe a word or expression he doesnt say much, maybe a reference to an event from the past? What is the tone of the notes? Does he seem determined? Sad? Helpless? Mad?

-you may be able to track him through his car, gps, or phone, even if it is off

-do you own any weapons at home? I am not from the US so dont know the gun reglementation in Pensilvania. If yes, are they still there? If not a gun, did ammunition disappear?

-try to think of when he went to work, did he do something he usually doesn't? Did he forget something minor that he usually brings to work? (My dad for example always brings floss...) That could indicate you whether he was planning on getting to work or not, but then again, why would he have left notes that morning if that was the case?

We are all with you, stay strong[/quote]

Well, in the note to his parents, his note was more accusatory and angry then sad and apologetic, the police are aware of this as well, but as I said, they live all the way in Tennessee and he doesn't have the funds to drive that distance. Also, even if suicide isn't where he was going, he talked in the notes as if he was leaving at all. The note to me said; "Be strong for Beth (my mom) and your brothers, the next weeks will be hard on them."

As far as weapons go, his phone case is like a utility case, and it has a bunch of sharp objects in it, including a nice.
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I don't mean to sound grim, but i think his intention was to not be found in good standing. Does your father have life insurance that you know of?

I don't mean to sound grim, but i think his intention was to not be found in good standing. Does your father have life insurance that you know of?
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DrPloxoI don't mean to sound grim, but i think his intention was to not be found in good standing. Does your father have life insurance that you know of?

I don't think so. As I said before, we are new here, and my dad's job has a life insurance policy which hasn't been completed yet.

[quote=DrPloxo]I don't mean to sound grim, but i think his intention was to not be found in good standing. Does your father have life insurance that you know of?[/quote]

I don't think so. As I said before, we are new here, and my dad's job has a life insurance policy which hasn't been completed yet.
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#28
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Do you mind me asking how old you are? And if you go to college/uni?

Do you mind me asking how old you are? And if you go to college/uni?
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NoCourtesyDo you mind me asking how old you are? And if you go to college/uni?

I'm 17. And a senior-to-be in high school.

[quote=NoCourtesy]Do you mind me asking how old you are? And if you go to college/uni?[/quote]

I'm 17. And a senior-to-be in high school.
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I'm extremely sad and sorry for you and i hope you find your dad

one of my best friends was from doylestown actually and add me he might know a thing or two about places to go but i don't know for sure

i wish you luck and a pray for you and your family

stay strong!

I'm extremely sad and sorry for you and i hope you find your dad

one of my best friends was from doylestown actually and add me he might know a thing or two about places to go but i don't know for sure

i wish you luck and a pray for you and your family

stay strong!
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