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How to get over your "first love"
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#31
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Transfer that feeling to another person, or, if there ain't nobody available, another activity. Caring about something a lot is a thing people do. Lots of chemicals in the brain dedicated to that particular set of emotions. The whole deal about "rebound" people is that they understand that they need to transfer, but they don't spend time thinking about the direction before they do so.

So make some kind of active choice. Determine what you're going to care about. Then care about it and put time into it. That should do something. Probably.

Transfer that feeling to another person, or, if there ain't nobody available, another activity. Caring about something a lot is a thing people do. Lots of chemicals in the brain dedicated to that particular set of emotions. The whole deal about "rebound" people is that they understand that they need to transfer, but they don't spend time thinking about the direction before they do so.

So make some kind of active choice. Determine what you're going to care about. Then care about it and put time into it. That should do something. Probably.
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#32
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Don't bother with that, in order to be successful in life you can't have distractions. Eyyyy.

That's how I live successfully; alone. Screw human interaction.

Don't bother with that, in order to be successful in life you can't have distractions. Eyyyy.


That's how I live successfully; alone. Screw human interaction.
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#33
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don't catch feelings

don't catch feelings
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#34
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tell someone, have a cry, have a wank

not necessarily in that order

when feelings are thoroughly dispersed focus on something else

become the best

you have the motivation

you have the potential

you have the power

no girl will ever reject you again

tell someone, have a cry, have a wank

not necessarily in that order

when feelings are thoroughly dispersed focus on something else

become the best

you have the motivation

you have the potential

you have the power

no girl will ever reject you again
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#35
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there are 7 billion people on this planet trust me, u gon find somebody. She not the only one.

there are 7 billion people on this planet trust me, u gon find somebody. She not the only one.
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#36
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kosIf I like a girl but I don't want to like her for whatever reason then I always just imagine them pooping as often as I can and then eventually whenever you see them it conjures the mental image of them squeezing out a massive one after a night of eating kebabs and drinking guinness and you are just instantly disgusted by them. 10/10 works every time

jesus christ

[quote=kos]If I like a girl but I don't want to like her for whatever reason then I always just imagine them pooping as often as I can and then eventually whenever you see them it conjures the mental image of them squeezing out a massive one after a night of eating kebabs and drinking guinness and you are just instantly disgusted by them. 10/10 works every time[/quote]

jesus christ
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#37
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Eventually you'll move on from the feelings you currently have and get on with your life, so dont stress yourself out.

Eventually you'll move on from the feelings you currently have and get on with your life, so dont stress yourself out.
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#38
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https://i.imgur.com/2u7yB6p.jpg

[img]https://i.imgur.com/2u7yB6p.jpg[/img]
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#39
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jdawg stay scrong bruh. ima never forget this track we spit together: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Me_aCTGUIcE

dopest shit on the planet. stay scrong bruh. when the laws come knockin, get that shotty cockin. singin bout dogs like sarah mclaughlin. sweaty, arms shakin when that choppa be rockin. leave them 50 on the ground like my bathtub's caulking.
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jdawg stay scrong bruh. ima never forget this track we spit together: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Me_aCTGUIcE

dopest shit on the planet. stay scrong bruh. when the laws come knockin, get that shotty cockin. singin bout dogs like sarah mclaughlin. sweaty, arms shakin when that choppa be rockin. leave them 50 on the ground like my bathtub's caulking.
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#40
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kosIf I like a girl but I don't want to like her for whatever reason then I always just imagine them pooping as often as I can and then eventually whenever you see them it conjures the mental image of them squeezing out a massive one after a night of eating kebabs and drinking guinness and you are just instantly disgusted by them. 10/10 works every time

http://i1.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/744/672/0bc.jpg

[quote=kos]If I like a girl but I don't want to like her for whatever reason then I always just imagine them pooping as often as I can and then eventually whenever you see them it conjures the mental image of them squeezing out a massive one after a night of eating kebabs and drinking guinness and you are just instantly disgusted by them. 10/10 works every time[/quote]

http://i1.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/744/672/0bc.jpg
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#41
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ShdSteelDon't bother with that, in order to be successful in life you can't have distractions. Eyyyy.

That's how I live successfully; alone. Screw human interaction.

Ow da edge

[quote=ShdSteel]Don't bother with that, in order to be successful in life you can't have distractions. Eyyyy.


That's how I live successfully; alone. Screw human interaction.[/quote]
Ow da edge
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#42
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JDawgThere is this girl at my school who I have been in love with for a while now. I have known liked for 3 years, and the past few months I have really fallen in love with her. At the beginning of the school year, she said she liked me back but it wasn't near as much as I liked her. I got way too deep in my feelings, and she has moved on past hers. Now I am having a lot of regrets of the past asking myself why I didn't do this or do that, etc.
I feel like love is the strongest emotion. Is it possible to fully get over the person you love, not just for looks, but for who they truly are? Because I feel like I may never see her the same way again, I have taken space as much up to a month to stop talking to her, but it only neutralizes my feelings for a short period of time until they come back again.

don't linger on her, go forward with no regrets and don't be be a slave to your hormones. once you bump into your next love, you'll laugh for how you feel now.

[quote=JDawg]There is this girl at my school who I have been in love with for a while now. I have known liked for 3 years, and the past few months I have really fallen in love with her. At the beginning of the school year, she said she liked me back but it wasn't near as much as I liked her. I got way too deep in my feelings, and she has moved on past hers. Now I am having a lot of regrets of the past asking myself why I didn't do this or do that, etc.
I feel like love is the strongest emotion. Is it possible to fully get over the person you love, not just for looks, but for who they truly are? Because I feel like I may never see her the same way again, I have taken space as much up to a month to stop talking to her, but it only neutralizes my feelings for a short period of time until they come back again.[/quote]
don't linger on her, go forward with no regrets and don't be be a slave to your hormones. once you bump into your next love, you'll laugh for how you feel now.
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#43
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGelJhg4B9Q

2d is better anyways

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VGelJhg4B9Q

2d is better anyways
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#44
10 Frags +

girls suk

girls suk
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#45
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I know exactly how you feel. I've recently been through an extremely rough break-up, and my ex has moved on to another relationship. It's heart-wrenching when you love someone, and they don't feel the same way about you.

The best advice I can offer you is to not ruminate about your decisions and choices on the matter; to not make the past the present. Whether you agree with the decisions you made or not, the one thing that is factual is that those decisions have happened, and you need to come to terms accepting them and moving forwards, living in the moment. Engage yourself also in activities that promote and condition a positive state of mind, and attempt to address your perceived short-comings to make yourself into a stronger person.

I know exactly how you feel. I've recently been through an extremely rough break-up, and my ex has moved on to another relationship. It's heart-wrenching when you love someone, and they don't feel the same way about you.

The best advice I can offer you is to not ruminate about your decisions and choices on the matter; to not make the past the present. Whether you agree with the decisions you made or not, the one thing that is factual is that those decisions have happened, and you need to come to terms accepting them and moving forwards, living in the moment. Engage yourself also in activities that promote and condition a positive state of mind, and attempt to address your perceived short-comings to make yourself into a stronger person.
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#46
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https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B2-DR45IYAAigCO.png

[img]https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B2-DR45IYAAigCO.png[/img]
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#47
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It might suck but it's just something you have to deal with, and it almost certainly won't be the last time this happens in your life. It's been in my experience that you always kind of feel something to some extent for the ones you love. Not necessarily love, but there's always something there for that person. However I'm sure this changes over even longer periods of time, I'm only 21 so I haven't had 10 years since a past love to know for sure.

I left this past GXL early for a girl I was really into that wanted to go to the bars that night. After that night we were essentially inseparable for the next three months or so. I fell completely head over heels for her (yes, in love), more so than I had with anyone else up to this point in my life in such a short amount of time. Although no one is perfect, she felt perfect for me. Without getting into details, she basically used me to get over an ex-boyfriend and had been lying to me during this whole endeavor. While she did have legitimate feelings for me, her long term goals weren't the same as mine, and we weren't on the same page as far as how much we liked each other. Even though she did me wrong, I wouldn't say I regret it happening. I learned a lot from the whole ordeal, about myself and what I'm looking for in future relationships.

Basically, don't dwell on it for too long. Have your brief period of sulk and get back out there. Some days will be better than others, and she'll still cross your mind, but you just have to keep chugging along. Be sure to resist any urge to talk to her, because it will only revert any progress you made if you do speak with her. To throw the cliche terms out there, there's always more fish in the sea, and it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Take it as a learning experience, get back out there and find someone new. As I said before, this most likely won't be the last time this happens in your life.

It might suck but it's just something you have to deal with, and it almost certainly won't be the last time this happens in your life. It's been in my experience that you always kind of feel something to some extent for the ones you love. Not necessarily love, but there's always [i]something[/i] there for that person. However I'm sure this changes over even longer periods of time, I'm only 21 so I haven't had 10 years since a past love to know for sure.

I left this past GXL early for a girl I was really into that wanted to go to the bars that night. After that night we were essentially inseparable for the next three months or so. I fell completely head over heels for her (yes, in love), more so than I had with anyone else up to this point in my life in such a short amount of time. Although no one is perfect, she felt perfect for me. Without getting into details, she basically used me to get over an ex-boyfriend and had been lying to me during this whole endeavor. While she did have legitimate feelings for me, her long term goals weren't the same as mine, and we weren't on the same page as far as how much we liked each other. Even though she did me wrong, I wouldn't say I regret it happening. I learned a lot from the whole ordeal, about myself and what I'm looking for in future relationships.

Basically, don't dwell on it for too long. Have your brief period of sulk and get back out there. Some days will be better than others, and she'll still cross your mind, but you just have to keep chugging along. Be sure to resist any urge to talk to her, because it will only revert any progress you made if you do speak with her. To throw the cliche terms out there, there's always more fish in the sea, and it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Take it as a learning experience, get back out there and find someone new. As I said before, this most likely won't be the last time this happens in your life.
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#48
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Recognize that the experience is fleeting, enjoy the good feelings they bring you. If the feeling ain't mutual, there's nothing you can do but respect their wishes. Hope this helps!

Recognize that the experience is fleeting, enjoy the good feelings they bring you. If the feeling ain't mutual, there's nothing you can do but respect their wishes. Hope this helps!
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#49
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kosIf I like a girl but I don't want to like her for whatever reason then I always just imagine them pooping as often as I can and then eventually whenever you see them it conjures the mental image of them squeezing out a massive one after a night of eating kebabs and drinking guinness and you are just instantly disgusted by them. 10/10 works every time

OP check this out

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_efRUrmjSc

if that doesnt turn you off then i dont know what will

[quote=kos]If I like a girl but I don't want to like her for whatever reason then I always just imagine them pooping as often as I can and then eventually whenever you see them it conjures the mental image of them squeezing out a massive one after a night of eating kebabs and drinking guinness and you are just instantly disgusted by them. 10/10 works every time[/quote]


OP check this out
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_efRUrmjSc[/youtube]

if that doesnt turn you off then i dont know what will
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#50
6 Frags +

I think a lot of what people experience isn't necessarily the pain of lost affection - I've missed people I was quite irritated with for example. But, what is really upsetting is when another person up and exercises their free will on you out of the blue and you have to come to the realization that you'll never really be able to understand another person totally - regardless of how well you may know them beforehand.

It's perfectly normal to be sad over a break up or rejection, just deal with it as best you can - I won't share any particular anecdotes from my own life because they tend to be far too depressing given the topic at hand lol.

Laying around and pining won't get you anywhere - even though wallowing in self pity (at least for a short time) may feel good.

I think a lot of what people experience isn't necessarily the pain of lost affection - I've missed people I was quite irritated with for example. But, what is really upsetting is when another person up and exercises their free will on you out of the blue and you have to come to the realization that you'll never really be able to understand another person totally - regardless of how well you may know them beforehand.

It's perfectly normal to be sad over a break up or rejection, just deal with it as best you can - I won't share any particular anecdotes from my own life because they tend to be far too depressing given the topic at hand lol.

Laying around and pining won't get you anywhere - even though wallowing in self pity (at least for a short time) may feel good.
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#51
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlCRfTmBSGs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SlCRfTmBSGs
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