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dealing with loss
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#1
42 Frags +

hey tf2 community, i'm currently dealing with losing my mother, wondering if any of y'all niggas have any tips or advice or experience dealing with loss.

sorry for blog, i don't wanna be that guy.

hey tf2 community, i'm currently dealing with losing my mother, wondering if any of y'all niggas have any tips or advice or experience dealing with loss.

sorry for blog, i don't wanna be that guy.
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#2
15 Frags +

Find someone to hang with if you can; you're not a alone and shouldn't try to take it alone.

Find someone to hang with if you can; you're not a alone and shouldn't try to take it alone.
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#3
13 Frags +

I have my mumble doods and some of my former teammates to hang with, that's not a problem... I like hanging out in mumble with lots of people who I like, I'm just wondering who might have been here where I am right now in this community...

Shoutouts to Cloudmaker, Nick, Audie, CM Flex, and all my teammates and friends who tried to make it work for us in open, best of luck to all of you and thanks for being there for me.

I have my mumble doods and some of my former teammates to hang with, that's not a problem... I like hanging out in mumble with lots of people who I like, I'm just wondering who might have been here where I am right now in this community...

Shoutouts to Cloudmaker, Nick, Audie, CM Flex, and all my teammates and friends who tried to make it work for us in open, best of luck to all of you and thanks for being there for me.
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#4
9 Frags +

i've lost a lot of people in my life and i just think of all the good times

i also just think that the person that is gone wouldn't want to see me this unhappy about it and just try to move on

(while keeping them in my heart)

i've lost a lot of people in my life and i just think of all the good times

i also just think that the person that is gone wouldn't want to see me this unhappy about it and just try to move on

(while keeping them in my heart)
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#5
10 Frags +

I just try to stay happy, continuing to do what I love, playing video games and shit...

My mom knows how much I love it, maybe one day I'll become a pro golfer and do her proud haha, apparently e-sports aren't as respectable yet...

I just try to stay happy, continuing to do what I love, playing video games and shit...

My mom knows how much I love it, maybe one day I'll become a pro golfer and do her proud haha, apparently e-sports aren't as respectable yet...
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#6
5 Frags +

My grandmother died a year ago when I was 12. Not sure if I had the best judgement when I was 12, or even now, but I tried to stay happy and hang around the other people who are mourning and to try and comfort them. Seeing other people sad always made me feel sad, so I always try to make people happy, and it makes me happy to know they're in less pain. I'm sorry for your loss.

My grandmother died a year ago when I was 12. Not sure if I had the best judgement when I was 12, or even now, but I tried to stay happy and hang around the other people who are mourning and to try and comfort them. Seeing other people sad always made me feel sad, so I always try to make people happy, and it makes me happy to know they're in less pain. I'm sorry for your loss.
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#7
7 Frags +

It kind of sounds weird but don't think too much about her passing and think more about how awesome she was and think about how she helped you become who you are today. She will always be with you, don't forget that :D

It kind of sounds weird but don't think too much about her passing and think more about how awesome she was and think about how she helped you become who you are today. She will always be with you, don't forget that :D
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#8
-5 Frags +

this nigga was droppin some hard bars in mumble not too long ago. i see you
(watch anime with me and nick c:)

this nigga was droppin some hard bars in mumble not too long ago. i see you
(watch anime with me and nick c:)
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#9
5 Frags +

My condolences dude, losing a loved one is never easy.

My condolences dude, losing a loved one is never easy.
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#10
3 Frags +

It happens to everyone

It happens to everyone
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#11
3 Frags +

you're always gonna have moment where u miss her and feel like shit but after you let out your emotions just think about the future and what she would want you to do. everyone's gotta go through with it and it's a really sad process :(

you're always gonna have moment where u miss her and feel like shit but after you let out your emotions just think about the future and what she would want you to do. everyone's gotta go through with it and it's a really sad process :(
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#12
3 Frags +

Time. Times makes everything better. Hold the good memories close and the rest will fade away.

Time. Times makes everything better. Hold the good memories close and the rest will fade away.
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#13
6 Frags +

plenty of experience unfortunately. best advice i can give is to accept that you're gonna have a grieving process, it might be weird might not, but you gotta work through it cuz if you stuff all that shit down it will not end well.

remember the good times, celebrate their life don't dwell on their passing (easier said than done obvi but it helps)

plenty of experience unfortunately. best advice i can give is to accept that you're gonna have a grieving process, it might be weird might not, but you gotta work through it cuz if you stuff all that shit down it will not end well.

remember the good times, celebrate their life don't dwell on their passing (easier said than done obvi but it helps)
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#14
5 Frags +

Sorry to hear this, buddy :/ I lost my mom when I was 24. She was a severe alcoholic for the majority of my life and even though I always saw it coming, I still didn't expect it to happen a few days before I was about to graduate college with two degrees she was extremely proud of me obtaining.

It's going to be really really rough for a while, especially at certain times and the best thing you can do is to not try to rush the grieving process. Never fool yourself into believing that you're completely 100% okay at any point because unfortunately, you won't be for a while. You lost a parent for fucks sake and that's one of the most significant losses a person can experience. If your friends and family are reaching out to you, let them, but also let them know if you feel like they are being too overbearing. Don't lock yourself away from everything and let the people close to you know when to back off and when to help console you. You'll get through this, and your life is what you make it, so make it the best it can be from here on out.

Sorry to hear this, buddy :/ I lost my mom when I was 24. She was a severe alcoholic for the majority of my life and even though I always saw it coming, I still didn't expect it to happen a few days before I was about to graduate college with two degrees she was extremely proud of me obtaining.

It's going to be really really rough for a while, especially at certain times and the best thing you can do is to not try to rush the grieving process. Never fool yourself into believing that you're completely 100% okay at any point because unfortunately, you won't be for a while. You lost a parent for fucks sake and that's one of the most significant losses a person can experience. If your friends and family are reaching out to you, let them, but also let them know if you feel like they are being too overbearing. Don't lock yourself away from everything and let the people close to you know when to back off and when to help console you. You'll get through this, and your life is what you make it, so make it the best it can be from here on out.
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#15
2 Frags +

I lost my dad a year ago. Losing someone is always hard but one thing that I've done to get me through is going through with my promise that I would do good in college and not ruin my life because of what happened to him. That promise has carried me through all the hard times that I've had, and it is hard, but you'll get through it. I don't want to sound like a broken record, but all of the advice that people have given so far is good to follow. Being with people you love, focusing on good times, and remembering your mother for how great she was is all great advice. Also make sure you have people you can comfortably talk to if it feels unbearable to you. My condolences. If you need someone to talk to you can add me on steam, though I'm not on all that often.

I lost my dad a year ago. Losing someone is always hard but one thing that I've done to get me through is going through with my promise that I would do good in college and not ruin my life because of what happened to him. That promise has carried me through all the hard times that I've had, and it is hard, but you'll get through it. I don't want to sound like a broken record, but all of the advice that people have given so far is good to follow. Being with people you love, focusing on good times, and remembering your mother for how great she was is all great advice. Also make sure you have people you can comfortably talk to if it feels unbearable to you. My condolences. If you need someone to talk to you can add me on steam, though I'm not on all that often.
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#16
3 Frags +

My mother died three years ago this June. It was kind of sudden. She was in great health one day, diagnosed with cancer the next, and dead not much more than two months later. We were really close.

I guess for me the only thing that helped much was spending time with people I really cared about. A lot of people came out of the woodwork to offer their condolences, and to be honest I found that pretty tiring, though I know they meant well. I didn't want condolences, and I didn't really want to talk about it. I just wanted to be around people I loved, doing normal things I enjoyed.

And I guess that's the thing I'd add to what people have already said. Try to do things that give you pleasure. It can be hard to do that- life lost some of its savor for me for a while after my Mom died. But if there is one thing I did learn from her death it is that life is short and you ought to get as much from it as you can. One of the things she said to me when she was dying was "I want you to know that I had a great life." I hope I can say the same, as sincerely as she did, on my deathbed.

My mother died three years ago this June. It was kind of sudden. She was in great health one day, diagnosed with cancer the next, and dead not much more than two months later. We were really close.

I guess for me the only thing that helped much was spending time with people I really cared about. A lot of people came out of the woodwork to offer their condolences, and to be honest I found that pretty tiring, though I know they meant well. I didn't want condolences, and I didn't really want to talk about it. I just wanted to be around people I loved, doing normal things I enjoyed.

And I guess that's the thing I'd add to what people have already said. Try to do things that give you pleasure. It can be hard to do that- life lost some of its savor for me for a while after my Mom died. But if there is one thing I did learn from her death it is that life is short and you ought to get as much from it as you can. One of the things she said to me when she was dying was "I want you to know that I had a great life." I hope I can say the same, as sincerely as she did, on my deathbed.
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#17
6 Frags +

I watched her pass on my birthday, it was pretty surreal, but we're all glad the pain is over. As luck would have it, the funeral will be held on her birthday on Saturday. Go figure.

She was a master planner throughout her life. All we can think is that she planned it this way.

I watched her pass on my birthday, it was pretty surreal, but we're all glad the pain is over. As luck would have it, the funeral will be held on her birthday on Saturday. Go figure.

She was a master planner throughout her life. All we can think is that she planned it this way.
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#18
2 Frags +

Sometimes, we may take the existence of people for granted. I try not to, but it happens. I lost my aunt from liver cancer not too long ago and I didn't realize how much a single person meant to me until hindsight. I was accustomed thinking that she would be, or at least, should be, alive for as long as time could permit. However, when she died, I couldn't help but to think otherwise. I think this happens to all of us, where we emphasize what we don't have rather than what we do have. I may not have a nice car to drive, but at least I have a car that takes me from point A to point B. I may not have a mansion, but at least I have a place which I call home. I've grown to be more appreciative of what I have and the people whom I love and care for. Unfortunately, I wasn't appreciative enough of my aunt to tell her how much she meant to me. It hurts me to know that it's a little too late now to tell her. We should stay strong though. We will get shoved to the ground many times in life, all that matters is that we stand back up once. Just once.

Sometimes, we may take the existence of people for granted. I try not to, but it happens. I lost my aunt from liver cancer not too long ago and I didn't realize how much a single person meant to me until hindsight. I was accustomed thinking that she would be, or at least, should be, alive for as long as time could permit. However, when she died, I couldn't help but to think otherwise. I think this happens to all of us, where we emphasize what we don't have rather than what we do have. I may not have a nice car to drive, but at least I have a car that takes me from point A to point B. I may not have a mansion, but at least I have a place which I call home. I've grown to be more appreciative of what I have and the people whom I love and care for. Unfortunately, I wasn't appreciative enough of my aunt to tell her how much she meant to me. It hurts me to know that it's a little too late now to tell her. We should stay strong though. We will get shoved to the ground many times in life, all that matters is that we stand back up once. Just once.
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