My step-father abused me and my mom since I was 7 years old, until she finally found the strength to divorce him when I was 19, and my sister was 7. I'm 27 now. For the past 8 years they have engaged in a war of attrition, with him trying to grind down and control her, and my mother fighting back, me starting my own family and moving away from the mess.
My stupid 14-year-old sister went and told her school councilor that my mother's boyfriend emotionally abuses her. Now I happen to know the boyfriend quite well and I know exactly what he did to provoke my sister into doing that. I hold him responsible for being a stubborn fuck and not recognizing that a teenager mind is not the same as his adult clients (he's a therapist and life coach) and that he pushed her way too far in a direction that she physiologically and psychologically is just incapable of going (he was trying to get her to take responsibility for her emotions in a way that adults can, but teenagers just do not have the mental stability to handle that kind of a request, which obviously seems extremely unfair when you're put in that situation).
The problem? Her actual abusive asshole of a father is putting on a WHOLE fucking show to get back at my mother. He's called every fucking official person he can to get them on his side, because his ultimate goal is to hurt my mother and isolate my sister so that she can be his next target of abuse - which is extremely beneficial, because not only does that give him a new punching bag, but it also hurts my mother in the process. He's now flapping all of his fucking feathers in front of my sister, buying her all kinds of shit, letting her do whatever she wants, just to convince her that he's her saviour the same way he did my mother and me, so he can isolate her enough where she would have nowhere to go. And the 14-year-old is, of course, falling for absolutely every scrap of it, because she's a fucking child and you can't expect a child to be able to identify when they're being groomed.
My mom and my step-dad and the boyfriend are all adults so I honestly could not give one flying piece of shit about any of them because they're big kids and can deal with their own problems. But I am absolutely fucking LIVID that my sister has gotten dragged into it for so long. It's so fucking unfair to her, unfair to her childhood. She has no home because the goddamn morons insist that she travels from one house to another every week just so my step-father can try and groom his next abuse victim and so my mother can get back at her ex-abuser (and also probably protect my sister, but I do notice that she hasn't attempted to fight for full custody).
I'm also honestly mad at myself for not getting involved earlier, for staying quiet and trying to play nice with both sides. I called the fucking asshole yesterday and told him I'd take him out for dinner for his birthday because EIGHT FUCKING YEARS AGO he hurt me for not wishing him a happy birthday. I should've known something was up when I could hear him smiling through his phone and telling me that he'll think about it.
It's on, motherfucker. It's fucking on.