I hate the people who won't tell me why they banned me from their DIY music venue more than I hate the guy who molested me in my sleep. Having self appointed authority figures leave you in the dark regarding decisions that dictate your ability to participate in something you're passionate about really fucks with your head and sets precedence for a system ripe for abuse. It is difficult to process your wrongdoings and improve as a person when youre forced to endlessly ponder which one of your mistakes lead to this and nobody has ever grown from not knowing something about themself.
There are many kinds of bad people in this world and I have no problem judging administrators and victims for the way they handle things..If whatever Alfa did is so bad that he can't play video games in California, then it is something everyone should know about. If Alfa chooses to harass his accuser after the revelations of the specifics then that is nothing more than further proof that he should be banned and probably from more places than just this dead lan.