ZestyBack in 2009 I used to play on a community server that was run by a bunch of cockney guys in their 30s and 40s with aliases like "Crazy Tony" who used to get on the mic and shittalk each other (and random other players in the server). It was one of those servers that had a load of sound downloads and they'd just constantly be playing shit like vengabus loudly to everyone. Also if any player started complaining about this or doing the pubber thing of typing every time they died the admins would just play the sound clip of Arnold Schwarzenegger from kindergarten cop saying "stop whining" repeatedly which would cause people to lose their fucking minds. You just don't get community like that any more.
This is insane that the first post of a thread like this was MY old clan pub sever back in 2008. It was exactly as you described. We'd have fun drinking nights, opt to auto balance the sever ourselves by asking because ingame balance sucked, everyone was known for spamming certain mains and favorite classes.
All these guys and gals even went to the insomnia lans (most still do and stop by so see how im getting on)
Youve even reminded me that i still have shitty killcam images from the regulars from 17 years ago.
https://i.imgur.com/v0bKTOp.jpeg
Those 30 year olds had hearts of gold and left a good, fun and kind impression on me at an impressionable age.
If im honest, i wouldn't say these things have disappeared, you get a tiny bit of it in uncletopia severs, but we're just all older now.