radiumI am completely insecure about this, to be honest.
I know what might work - I'll have roses delivered to her front door before we see each other next. Then, I'll wear a pin of a rose that matches the color of the roses that were sent on my jacket/shirt/vest when we next go out. She'll notice it when I walk up to her that evening - one thing I've learned about girls is that they notice these things - and if she doesn't then I guess the next best option would be to sack up and bleed my heart out over a nice dinner.
How does that sound? It sends a silent - but clear - message to her.
Hey. Fellow closet romantic. I'm currently engaged to my best female friend after 4 post HS years of not talking to her.
When I wanted to make it really obvious that I wanted a relationship with my lady, I sent her a package (she was in another state at the time). I spent a month filling it with all kinds of things that showed I listened to her, knew what she liked, and cared. Her favorite cereal was Captain Crunch: Oops all Berries. Well they don't sell it anymore (at least not in stores we know of). So I went and bought 5 of the biggest crunch berries boxes I could find and manually took out all the berries and put them in one box. Then I went online and printed out pictures of the Oops all Berries box, and taped it on the crunchberries box.
In this box I included a letter that made my desires very clear. I told her that I sent this as a friend, and I hoped she liked everything, but yes, I also sent it because I care about her more than a friend.
3 months later I asked her out in person, and 2 years dating later we're getting married.
Anyway, thought you might like the story.
I think the plan I quoted is weird. If you're going to be that obvious about it, be obvious. And put some thought into it. Don't just send her some flowers. Put some of 'you' into however you tell her, or whatever you give her. But don't go too hard. Leave room to have her as a friend if she's not interested.
But really you should know if she's interested or not. You really should. Don't second guess yourself, but also don't see things that aren't there. You should know.