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Why do I get hit on by gay guys but not girls?
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#1
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Last weekend I was out at a party and some guy apparently was trying really hard to take me home. He kept talking to me and I honestly didn't really get what was going on right away. Then last night my friend(who is gay)'s boyfriend told me he knew that guy and apparently he was really into me. This isn't the first time I've had a gay guy try to pick me up at a party, ask me out, or just hit on me general.

I know people are going to say "Oh you should be flattered." I am. But it's still depressing because I've been rejected by women like a million times. But guys like me. I just don't understand how this sort of stuff works.

I've people tell me oh you're probably trying too hard to look for a girlfriend. Then I've had a few people including some girls tell me I'd probably be really good in a relationship, and I should seek that out. But I don't know how I'd feel about a relationship. I've gone so long without that I wouldn't know what to do in one. And dating just doesn't seem very appealing to me.

As far as sex itself goes people keep telling me to hire an escort. I have no interest in paying for sex. It doesn't seem like a very logical course of action and I keep telling people this. I don't know why everyone suggests it. The problem is I want to have sex a *girlfriend*. Maybe I will if I'm desperate enough.

Last weekend I was out at a party and some guy apparently was trying really hard to take me home. He kept talking to me and I honestly didn't really get what was going on right away. Then last night my friend(who is gay)'s boyfriend told me he knew that guy and apparently he was really into me. This isn't the first time I've had a gay guy try to pick me up at a party, ask me out, or just hit on me general.

I know people are going to say "Oh you should be flattered." I am. But it's still depressing because I've been rejected by women like a million times. But guys like me. I just don't understand how this sort of stuff works.

I've people tell me oh you're probably trying too hard to look for a girlfriend. Then I've had a few people including some girls tell me I'd probably be really good in a relationship, and I should seek that out. But I don't know how I'd feel about a relationship. I've gone so long without that I wouldn't know what to do in one. And dating just doesn't seem very appealing to me.

As far as sex itself goes people keep telling me to hire an escort. I have no interest in paying for sex. It doesn't seem like a very logical course of action and I keep telling people this. I don't know why everyone suggests it. The problem is I want to have sex a *girlfriend*. Maybe I will if I'm desperate enough.
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#2
22 Frags +

take denko-chan to the cherry blossoms (´・ω・`) ....

take denko-chan to the cherry blossoms (´・ω・`) ....
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#3
30 Frags +

It's because gay guys are less afraid of rejection and are all-around superior to anything and everything female. I feel sorry for straight dudes ._.

It's because gay guys are less afraid of rejection and are all-around superior to anything and everything female. I feel sorry for straight dudes ._.
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#4
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It's been too long Mr. Stultus.

It's been too long Mr. Stultus.
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#5
27 Frags +

Plot twist: It was Stratovarius

Plot twist: It was Stratovarius
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#6
41 Frags +

if it makes you feel any better id never hit on you

if it makes you feel any better id never hit on you
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#7
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Because its hit or miss whether or not the guy you like is gay

Because its hit or miss whether or not the guy you like is gay
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#8
-4 Frags +

Because all girls know that L-Block abandoned you for cyzer.

Because all girls know that L-Block abandoned you for cyzer.
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#9
7 Frags +

At least you get hit on....

At least you get hit on....
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#10
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thinkIt's been too long Mr. Stultus.

It's been too long Mr. Stultus.

[quote=think]It's been too long Mr. Stultus.[/quote]
It's been too long Mr. Stultus.
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#11
11 Frags +

ask hero, he'll know all about it

ask hero, he'll know all about it
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#12
6 Frags +

the universe is speaking to you, don't resist it

the universe is speaking to you, don't resist it
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#13
-3 Frags +

did he happen to look like this?

http://i.imgur.com/24wQejU.jpg

did he happen to look like this?

[img]http://i.imgur.com/24wQejU.jpg[/img]
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#14
3 Frags +

Girls give nonverbal cues indicating they want you to talk to them way more often than overtly flirting.

You might comment, "but I've seen them hit on a really hot guy before", and my response is that usually it's to edge out the competition.

You shouldn't be a beta and wait for a girl to hit on you though. Flirt with them. If they're interested then awesome and if not then whatever.

Girls give nonverbal cues indicating they want you to talk to them way more often than overtly flirting.

You might comment, "but I've seen them hit on a really hot guy before", and my response is that usually it's to edge out the competition.


You shouldn't be a beta and wait for a girl to hit on you though. Flirt with them. If they're interested then awesome and if not then whatever.
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#15
11 Frags +

maybe you just look gay =/

maybe you just look gay =/
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#16
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Sometimes, I can't tell if your posts are made in a sarcastic tone but there are a couple of things which make people attractive in general.

1. Be a leader. Be decisive.
2. Being self-content. If you learn to love yourself and not be dependent on other people's mindset of you then people will see your value.
3. Girls are used to being chased, very rarely will one feel bold enough to hit back on you. Unless you're referring to the fact that none of them seem to be indicating interest in you.
4. If you're going to hit on a girl, don't forget to project intent. You're not there to be her friend, you see her as more than that. That's how guys get friend zoned.

Lots of people think I'm gay because I dress more fashionably than the average guy on campus (oversized jeans, crappy fitting t-shirt) and because I like cooking/fashion/art/etc. Don't let it discourage you. As long as you show through your actions that you're a sexual being, and a man, they'll know.

This means going up to them, and using physical touch to display your attraction to them. It's important to know how to do this properly though but simple examples would be touching their arm when you're emphasizing a point or keeping strong eye contact.

Anyways, if you need more advice or anything, ask me and good luck. If you want to talk to me about anything, simply add me on steam.

Also, getting a girlfriend and things like that is very much a numbers game. You WILL get rejected a bunch of times but don't let it discourage you.

There is true love and love at first sight. Few are fortunate enough to find both together.
Sometimes, I can't tell if your posts are made in a sarcastic tone but there are a couple of things which make people attractive in general.

1. Be a leader. Be decisive.
2. Being self-content. If you learn to love yourself and not be dependent on other people's mindset of you then people will see your value.
3. Girls are used to being chased, very rarely will one feel bold enough to hit back on you. Unless you're referring to the fact that none of them seem to be indicating interest in you.
4. If you're going to hit on a girl, don't forget to project intent. You're not there to be her friend, you see her as more than that. That's how guys get friend zoned.

Lots of people think I'm gay because I dress more fashionably than the average guy on campus (oversized jeans, crappy fitting t-shirt) and because I like cooking/fashion/art/etc. Don't let it discourage you. As long as you show through your [b]actions[/b] that you're a sexual being, and a man, they'll know.

This means going up to them, and using physical touch to display your attraction to them. It's important to know how to do this properly though but simple examples would be touching their arm when you're emphasizing a point or keeping strong eye contact.

Anyways, if you need more advice or anything, ask me and good luck. If you want to talk to me about anything, simply add me on steam.

Also, getting a girlfriend and things like that is very much a numbers game. You WILL get rejected a bunch of times but don't let it discourage you.
[quote]
There is true love and love at first sight. Few are fortunate enough to find both together.[/quote]
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#17
18 Frags +

this nigga has no idea what he's talkin about LOL

this nigga has no idea what he's talkin about LOL
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#18
24 Frags +

thanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni

thanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni
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#19
7 Frags +

"In the sixties, I made love to many, many women. Often outdoors. In the mud and the rain. And it's possible a man slipped in. There would be no way of knowing." - Creed Bratton
There is a first time for everything.

"In the sixties, I made love to many, many women. Often outdoors. In the mud and the rain. And it's possible a man slipped in. There would be no way of knowing." - Creed Bratton
There is a first time for everything.
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#20
-8 Frags +

He..He wants the D?

He..He wants the D?
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#21
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gilburt where are you?

gilburt where are you?
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#22
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FearlessAs long as you show through your actions that you're a sexual being, and a man, they'll know.

I'm gonna go walk around in the nude.

[quote=Fearless]As long as you show through your [b]actions[/b] that you're a sexual being, and a man, they'll know.[/quote]
I'm gonna go walk around in the nude.
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#23
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stultusAs far as sex itself goes people keep telling me to hire an escort. I have no interest in paying for sex. It doesn't seem like a very logical course of action and I keep telling people this. I don't know why everyone suggests it. The problem is I want to have sex a *girlfriend*. Maybe I will if I'm desperate enough.

http://i.imgur.com/6EoSf0M.png

[quote=stultus]As far as sex itself goes people keep telling me to hire an escort. I have no interest in paying for sex. It doesn't seem like a very logical course of action and I keep telling people this. I don't know why everyone suggests it. The problem is I want to have sex a *girlfriend*. Maybe I will if I'm desperate enough.[/quote]

[img]http://i.imgur.com/6EoSf0M.png[/img]
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#24
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Epochthanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni

That's just sexual harassment. Through actions would be grabbing her hand, touching her on the shoulder, etc.

When I say sexual intent, that doesn't mean show your penis to her. It's showing that you are attracted to her, physically and emotionally.

Friends display their affection to you emotionally. Lovers do both.

[quote=Epoch]thanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni[/quote]

That's just sexual harassment. Through actions would be grabbing her hand, touching her on the shoulder, etc.

When I say sexual intent, that doesn't mean show your penis to her. It's showing that you are attracted to her, physically and emotionally.

Friends display their affection to you emotionally. Lovers do both.
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#25
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FearlessEpochthanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni
That's just sexual harassment. Through actions would be grabbing her hand, touching her on the shoulder, etc.

When I say sexual intent, that doesn't mean show your penis to her. It's showing that you are attracted to her, physically and emotionally.

Friends display their affection to you emotionally. Lovers do both.

When the man with the food at the pancake place touches my mom on her shoulder I get scared

[quote=Fearless][quote=Epoch]thanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni[/quote]

That's just sexual harassment. Through actions would be grabbing her hand, touching her on the shoulder, etc.

When I say sexual intent, that doesn't mean show your penis to her. It's showing that you are attracted to her, physically and emotionally.

Friends display their affection to you emotionally. Lovers do both.[/quote]

When the man with the food at the pancake place touches my mom on her shoulder I get scared
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#26
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huffFearlessEpochthanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni
That's just sexual harassment. Through actions would be grabbing her hand, touching her on the shoulder, etc.

When I say sexual intent, that doesn't mean show your penis to her. It's showing that you are attracted to her, physically and emotionally.

Friends display their affection to you emotionally. Lovers do both.

When the man with the food at the pancake place touches my mom on her shoulder I get scared

ROFL

[quote=huff][quote=Fearless][quote=Epoch]thanks fearless, i grabbed a girls ass and now im being forced to withdraw from my uni[/quote]

That's just sexual harassment. Through actions would be grabbing her hand, touching her on the shoulder, etc.

When I say sexual intent, that doesn't mean show your penis to her. It's showing that you are attracted to her, physically and emotionally.

Friends display their affection to you emotionally. Lovers do both.[/quote]

When the man with the food at the pancake place touches my mom on her shoulder I get scared[/quote]
ROFL
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#27
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-snip- wrong thread

-snip- wrong thread
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#28
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Why was fearless minusfragged to hell? His advice is solid, especially the bit of "project intent"

Only reason the "friendzone" is a thing is because the person being friendzoned never showed interest.

Why was fearless minusfragged to hell? His advice is solid, especially the bit of "project intent"

Only reason the "friendzone" is a thing is because the person being friendzoned never showed interest.
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#29
4 Frags +
RawrSpoonWhy was fearless minusfragged to hell? His advice is solid, especially the bit of "project intent"

Only reason the "friendzone" is a thing is because the person being friendzoned never showed interest.

Friendzoning isn't a thing, it's something people made up to make them feel better and to use as a scapegoat.

[quote=RawrSpoon]Why was fearless minusfragged to hell? His advice is solid, especially the bit of "project intent"

Only reason the "friendzone" is a thing is because the person being friendzoned never showed interest.[/quote]
Friendzoning isn't a thing, it's something people made up to make them feel better and to use as a scapegoat.
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#30
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RawrSpoonWhy was fearless minusfragged to hell? His advice is solid, especially the bit of "project intent"

Only reason the "friendzone" is a thing is because the person being friendzoned never showed interest.

Nah girls (people) want what they can't have.

[quote=RawrSpoon]Why was fearless minusfragged to hell? His advice is solid, especially the bit of "project intent"

Only reason the "friendzone" is a thing is because the person being friendzoned never showed interest.[/quote]
Nah girls (people) want what they can't have.
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