brimstonei do want to say that i think funhaver is right that the average person who's just trying to enjoy the game can't on an individual level do much about this kind of thing and obviously isn't "at fault", but i think what dish and okya are getting at is that there is a palatable apathy against, and in some circles of the community, tacit approval, in the way those who are not considered socially standard are treated, and it is a contributing factor to results like this.
Massively agree, too much niceness/apathy to people that no one should have to put up with. If you stick up for yourself against these bastards or otherwise just say openly "these people are horrible and shouldn't be people i have to join a server with if they keep behaving in this way" you risk getting called soft or obsessed by even people who can correctly recognise how horrible some of these behaviours are, or end up getting punished for it.