taggReading about these things can make it seem like this behavior is easily recognizable and easy to not fall for. I assure you this is not the case in a real life situation.
I normally don't post in threads like these because I am more of a lurker than a participating member of this community, but I felt compelled to reply to this because there is a crucial lesson to be learnt from what you said. I wish all young adults would get this drilled into their skulls by their parents and teachers: it is not difficult to recognise manipulative or abusive behaviour, but it is incredibly difficult to force your brain to accept and act on what it's recognising instead of denying it. You don't want to stand out from the group, you don't want to create interpersonal tension, you don't want to admit that someone you have to interact with might be dangerous, you are afraid of being wrong and hurting someone's reputation, etcetera. And the worst part is that you can substitute "you" with "your friends" in that sentence, which means that you are all putting pressure on each other to deny what your brains are telling you. The alcohol that flows freely at gaming events - and let's not try to pretend like minors don't get drunk with the help of (young) adults at these events - isn't helping that already fragile ability to accept one's instincts. There is nothing wrong with being a bit more reserved than those around you, you don't have to feel like you're the social villain for using your brain and not just going along with the pack.